Hello everybody!

It's funny because I foresaw myself writing something like this, and it really happened.

Before that, here's the feature:

I'm going to keep this really short and concise. I'm sure everyone has seen my latest media feature on HeyKaki, which is an Ask Me Anything where I was being fully myself and just shared my thoughts really candidly.

Of course, the nature of such videos is that edits will sensationalise things and not provide the full context or the whole story, which I also expected. I kind of knew I might get into trouble when one of the snippets went out, and I severely underestimated how toxic TikTok is because I was never a user there.

I think everyone has seen the snippet or the full video where I spoke about how I met my wife, and I believe it was my first time sharing the details of how we met. When I saw the snippet, I was like, OK, this doesn't look good, but hey, it's my story and a private joke between my wife and me, so I didn't think much of it. I thought most would see the humour and the healthy relationship I have with my wife. Turns out it went the other way, but not like I could do anything about it. Perhaps go see the full video instead.

It's interesting because the video was about 15 minutes long, yet people chose to ignore 99% of it and focus only on a few seconds, completely missing other key messages.

The Story Of How We Almost Didn't Get Together

We met on a dating app in 2016, which most people already know. I was a budding practitioner, only 2 years into my practice and still a greenhorn. I was 30 back then and still dealing with a lot of my own issues and struggles, and people who have been following me for a while should know what these struggles and issues are.

I came from a place of no love, was figuring out my life, and I frankly gave up on love at some point. Love eventually found me. Of course, I had vulnerability issues, and I was terrified of meeting the wrong person because I've had my fair share of toxic relationships before. And anyone should expect me to be using what I know (BaZi and whatever) to protect myself.

When I first met my wife, the conversation naturally led to my asking for her birthday. I took a look, got scared because I misinterpreted the chart - I didn't adjust for solar time, and there were issues with her recorded birth time. We actually stopped talking for a while because I didn't dare to open myself up and naturally withdrew, which happened a lot when I was younger. I stopped talking to my wife, and she did drop off the radar for a while, and, deep down, I kindda felt I didn't deserve a good girl like her back then.

We almost didn't get together, and I cannot imagine a life without her right now, or a life without my son. I fell for her back then because she was the only one who asked why I wrote that 2014 note to purge everything, and it was my first time opening up to someone about my past and struggles.

I won't go into the details of how we resumed talking, but she did text me again one day, and we started talking again. I never knew why she did. It is then that I began talking to her and let her know why I stopped talking to her, which is why she and I have our own couple joke of, "I thought you were a slut." because I really did assume so, no thanks to my wrong reading. I didn't want my heart to be toyed with like that again because the previous one, before I met my wife, was with an extremely toxic person who lied, manipulated, and was dating multiple men at the same time (me included).

What I uttered in the snippet was a silly story that stayed with us throughout our entire relationship and marriage, and our friends know about it. Even my in-laws know about it.

I know the word offends, but I'm just going to use that word without censoring it because I don't want to be pretentious, and I want to act as though I'm giving that taboo word any power. It is a word, and I am not directing it at anyone; I am using it to describe the situation back then.

The producers of HeyKaki actually asked us if we were OK to share our story, and we agreed because we didn't think much of it. The editors were female, by the way, and clearly didn't take offence as they saw it in the same light. It was really an endearing core memory for us because we often reminiscence how we met and how we almost missed each other. The only reason I was comfortable sharing something so personal was because of the emotional safety we have with each other in our marriage, and our marriage is healthier than most.

Are people really that ignorant to think that I'd say something like that without first going through my wife?

Anyway, Stomp is going to publish something, and Heaven knows which other stupid platform wants to jump on this, so I figured I'd give my own side of the story too, since, you know, they're clearly not going to convey everything.

Here were their questions to me:

1. How was your experience doing the interview?
2. In the interview, you mentioned that you initially thought your wife was a "slut". Could you elaborate on what you meant by that comment in the interview?
3. What question were you responding to when you made that remark?
4. Looking back, is there anything you wish you had phrased differently?
5. What is your response to comments pointing out the strong word choice?
6. Did you anticipate the negative reaction from the public?
7. Do you believe the comment was taken out of context, or do you think the criticism from viewers is understandable?
8. Has the backlash affected you personally or professionally?
9. How does your wife feel about the comment and the public reaction to it?

Here are my responses:

1. It was refreshing because I’ve not done something like that before. Didn’t know what to expect, so just went with an open mind.
2. I came from a broken family and wanted to figure out why my life was a certain way, which is why I went into Chinese metaphysics. I met my wife ten years ago, and like any young man, I had my fears and doubts because I had my fair share of toxic relationships where I wish I had known better. I was a budding practitioner back then and would, of course, naturally put what I knew to use when choosing who to date. If you watched the video in its entirety, I clearly calculated my wife’s chart wrongly and interpreted her charts as one belonging to someone who was promiscuous.
3. I was asked how I met my wife and if a spouse’s BaZi was important, which, of course, to a practitioner, it is.
4. I've shared the story of how my wife and I met with our friends. This was the way the story was usually conveyed, so it was natural for me to share it this way when interviewed.
5. The term was used in the context of a bazi chart reading, where my initial interpretation pointed to traits associated with promiscuity. It was not a reflection of my wife's character — in fact, I had already second-guessed that interpretation upon meeting her and acknowledged the misread. I would encourage anyone who has seen the clip to watch the video in full, as the context makes the intent clear.
6. Not really. I merely wanted to share the story of how I met my wife and how fate took an unexpected turn.
7. It’s understandable, of course. It’s my first time sharing it so openly, and our friends know it’s a joke between us. It’s definitely not the full picture.
8. Nah. I was just sharing my story and focusing on my own life. I can’t control how the public wants to interpret it.
9. My wife isn’t affected. Our marriage is healthy and emotionally secure, which is why I even shared the story in the first place. The producers also sought our permission for the story, and it is a core memory for us on how we almost missed each other. We’ve known each other for ten years and have been married for 6, and there’s no one else who knows me better than she does. We thank everyone for their interest in our marriage.

I can almost guarantee you that not everything I replied to will be published, so I thought I'd better draft something. I spoke to the editor, Joy Fang, previously from MustShareNews, and she said that Stomp is a "reputable news platform", so let's see what happens.

If You Know, You Know

People who have been with me for a while know how I speak of my wife, and they know she is my everything. It is in my blog posts and Instagram.

I grew up thinking I didn't deserve love, but she gave me that love I never felt I deserved, even though she could have loved someone else from a better family. I have never wanted anyone to look up to me as a role model because there's really nothing to look up to; I am just another human being. Knowing astrology doesn't make me better than others. But the least I hope is that people see that even someone with my background can eventually have a happy family, and there's nothing more uplifting than the support, love, and embrace of a good spouse.

Also, before anyone wants to throw labels at me like I'm a misygonist, the majority of my clients are female, most of my close friends are also female, and as I said before, some of my clients were once sex workers, people who cheated, slept around fill a void, and whatnot - there was never any value judgment against them. Those who know will know. Again, I know the word "slut" offends some people, but as I said, it's not something I give power to, and neither is there anything related to victim shaming or whatever. In case anyone has forgotten, I had a client who was groomed by her teacher in JC, and I offered to head down to the police station with her if she ever wanted closure. I even had clients who were SA-ed and confided in me.

Anyway, if you want to be offended, you do you. I was sharing a core memory between us that we laugh about. If you're offended, that's your choice. My only wish for you is that you find a fulfilling marriage where you can share your stories openly without fear of being judged.

To my followers who have reached out, don't worry. I'm not affected or bothered. I told myself to always be unapologetically myself as long as it's not against my conscience. I don't regret doing the feature because I got to be myself and share a bit of my story based on what really happened. I cannot control how the public perceives it. My goal has always been to change the industry, not to be liked. If I want to be liked, I'd be like other practitioners and sell you $60,000 Feng Shui items or $500,000 prosperity rituals, live in luxury, and exploit the hell out of you.

Like I said many times, I know the way I am - I will have my haters, and I am the common enemy in the industry. I've been through a lot in my life already, and I am perfectly fine with the negative attention and hate, but leave my wife out of it, yep?

The story I shared is between my wife and me, and I really couldn't care less how outsiders want to interpret it. *Shrugs* In a way, I'm glad a hell lot more people are going to know who I am, and what I stand for. I know some practitioners will be happy, but rest assured, I'm not going to stop pointing out the industry's misdeeds, and perhaps I don't have to cover names going forward. I've been extending a professional courtesy so far, which no longer needs to happen.

But yes, you're welcome to jump to conclusions without getting the full picture if that's your style, my dearest Cat. 4.

Peace out,
Sean

P.S. If any media outlets want to be a typical tabloid that adds no value to society, please just take the responses I gave above. You're more than welcome to present it objectively, but please don't cross the line because I reserve my legal rights. This will be the first and last time I address this issue. Please find something better to do, or write something more beneficial to society.